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As a youth leader, I know how important it is to talk about God’s design for relationships. Gerald and I even did a workshop about opposite sex friendships (with a little about dating) at our recent youth retreat. It was one of the topics our kids voted on that they wanted to learn more about.
So I’m excited about this Day of Dialogue that Focus on the Family is putting on for high school and college students on April 18, 2011. This is a chance for high school and college students to begin a conversation about God’s love and what the Bible says about His redemptive design for marriage and sexuality. With all the distorted beliefs about marriage and sexuality that bombard teens and young adults today, this is a much needed discussion to have.
Teens and young adults can sign up to participate in this discussion on April 18 and can download conversation cards, posters, and t-shirt designs to help promote the event at their schools and campuses. I’m going to promote this to the high school and college students at my church and hopefully some of them will take the initative to join the discussion. Sometimes in discussions like these, having one of your peers talk about these issues with you is more effective than having an adult leader do it.
Is anyone else participating in the Day of Dialogue? If you’re a youth leader, will you consider encouraging your teens to do it?
This weekend we were surrounded. Surrounded by God’s presence, His Word, fellowship, love, the Holy Spirit, worship, grace, and prayers.
Thank you to those of you who surrounded us with prayer. You were as much a part of what happened at this year’s youth retreat as the 37 of us who attended (31 youth and 6 leaders).
Let me just share a few things I learned (or was encouraged by) during the retreat:
1. Be flexible.
This is something that I struggle with often because I am such a planner and scheduler. I created the schedule for the retreat and knew that we’d most likely get off-schedule, but that still doesn’t make it easy for me to accept. Our bus driver got lost trying to find the camp (we had to turn around twice), but I’ll admit it wasn’t quite his fault. It was rainy, really dark, and those Wisconsin roads have no lights and tiny signs. So by the time we arrived at Camp Timber-lee, we began our evening program about an hour late. We cut a few things short (like fewer ice breakers and worship songs) and it didn’t seem like the best start to the weekend because I felt like my Bible study that night was very rushed (and it got too noisy to hear…our meeting room wasn’t that big). But our time is not God’s time and I am reminded that He is constantly working. It doesn’t matter if things are going according to my schedule as long as they’re going according to His.
2. Barriers were broken.
We’ve been working a lot this past year and a half with our youth group on breaking down barriers (between gender, age, cliques, etc). Last year we studied Ephesians and talked a lot about unity in the body of Christ. We made a lot of progress in integrating different groups of people together since then, but this weekend it seemed like that happened even more. It was amazing to see guys and girls getting together in small groups on their own initiative to pray together and to pray for each other, supporting one another. High school students and junior high students joined together to go tobogganing and tubing together. Older students encouraged younger students through group activities and with encouraging notes, which we call “Sunshine Mail.” Newcomers were immediately welcomed. New friendships formed, aquaintences became friends, and old friends grew closer. There’s nothing like realizing that all this happens because of what GOD is doing–not by us counselors motivating the kids to hang out with each other.
3. Don’t doubt God’s work in someone’s heart.
I’ll admit that I wasn’t sure if and how many of the students were being impacted through the retreat that weekend other than getting time to hang out with each other for what was like one long, extended youth group meeting. I wasn’t sure if they were engaging with what the speaker said or the things we talked about in our workshops because sometimes it’s just hard to tell. There were a few that you could tell were being more moved emotionally, but for the rest of them, I just wondered…and I prayed. I prayed that God would move powerfully in their lives and transform their hearts.
It wasn’t until after the retreat when we read the response cards that we could really see how God was working that weekend. He challenged them. He movtivated them to want to change their lives to live more for Him, to evangelize to their friends and invite them to church, to read the Bible more, to trust God in everything and to make their faith more real. We got great feedback on our workshops with teens saying how they gave them new perspectives and how they enjoyed what we shared with them.
This gives us a lot to follow up with and a lot of encouragement. Even though I might not have been able to physically see how God was transforming lives, He was doing it. I’m encouraged by that–and by the number of students who raised their hands to accept Christ/recommit their lives to Him or to take a step of faith. God is doing and will continue to do great things in this youth group. The school year isn’t over yet and I’m excited to see what God will do. I’m expecting the unexpected to happen.
One other thing I learned from this retreat: Gerald and I make a great team. 🙂 We worked together to lead a workshop on godly opposite sex friendships and boundaries in opposite friendships (just briefly touching on dating). We really only spent a good amount of time working on it two weeks before the retreat doing some of it together in person and finalizing most of it through Google Docs and via webcam (since we live so far apart). We only briefly got to go over it the day before the workshop, but through working together, I saw how we could use our relationship to glorify and honor God. We worked off each other’s comments during the workshop (even though sometimes I was waiting…somewhat patiently…for Gerald to finish talking so I could throw in another point). One of the girls told us that we were cute leading together, which shows me that hopefully our relationship can be an example to them too of what a godly relationship should look like. We do fail at that sometimes, but thankfully we’ve been given grace–by God and from each other.
This week I’m preparing for a weekend filled with late nights, early mornings, Bible readings, worship, games, camp food, good conversations, encouraging notes, fun activities, some stress, and a lot of responsibility as we take about 30 junior high and high school students on our annual youth retreat.
For the past two years, we’ve gone to Youth Conference at my alma mater, Taylor University. Since the college students prepared and led everything, we didn’t have to do much as youth leaders. This year we decided we needed to have our own retreat with just our youth group, so we planned everything and decided to head to Camp Timber-lee. At times, this was a little disorganized because there was a lot to think about and none of us had really planned an entire retreat on our own before. But God was faithful in providing.
We went through several options before we finally found a speaker (that was a huge praise!). When we started registration for the retreat, we only had a few people signed up the first few weeks. I was hoping we’d meet our 25 person minimum for the camp, but I shouldn’t have been worried. We now have 31 students attending and six leaders (including the speaker), which is nearly 40 people. That’s pretty big for us–we normally have less than 30 people total attending the youth retreats.
Our theme this year is Surrounded. It’s easy, especially for students, to compartmentalize our lives: church/youth group, school, sports, music, friends, family, etc. It’s easy for us to see how God fits in with our spiritual lives, but we easily forget that it’s not spiritual life vs. the rest of my life–it’s all intertwined and God is part of every aspect of our lives. He’s part of school (even though it can be hard to see Him in that area unless you’re praying before a test). He’s part of the activities we’re involved in (sports, music, clubs, hanging out with friends, shopping, talking on the phone, etc.). Our spiritual lives are not separate from the rest of our lives because God surrounds our entire lives. We have to remember that and center our lives around that fact.
We’re also surrounded by lots of other distractions: media, peer pressure, unrealistic expectations, being a people-pleaser, and much more. All these things try to pull us away from God, so we need to try and surround ourselves with the things of God in the midst of all of that. Those are some of the things we’re exploring this weekend (along with other issues through special youth counselor-led workshops on defending your faith, understanding and discerning God’s will in your life, and guy/girl friendships and relationships).
So in preparation for this big weekend, I’ve been trying to surround myself with more of God. It’s hard sometimes with everything that’s going on, but I need to be more intentional about it. So sometimes I’ll just turn off the radio on my drive home from work and pray for the retreat (like I did yesterday). Now I’m trying to pray for something specifically for the retreat every day this week and encouraging others to do so with me on Facebook.
If you’re reading this, please be in prayer for us this weekend. Here are some ways you can pray:
- Pray for the youth counselors (me, Gerald, Tiffany & Pearson), our worship coordinator (Rob), and speaker (Peter Moi) as we finish preparing our workshops, messages, and Bible studies this week. Pray that God would speak through us and use us.
- Pray for good weather (right now it looks like it’ll be snowy & cold in Wisconsin) and safe travel on Friday & Sunday
- Pray for the 31 students attending the retreat. They all come with different issues and at different points in their relationship with God. Pray that God would be preparing them now and that they would hear His voice and respond this weekend.
- Pray for our student leaders (Kat and Lauryn) as they lead games and student prayer meetings.
- Pray for our student worship teams as they lead the group in worship throughout the weekend
- Pray for the students not attending the retreat this year–that God would meet them where they’re at as well
Thank you for your prayers! If you have any advice for us prior to this weekend, feel free to leave it in the comments. 🙂