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Gerald and I have now been married for exactly one month! That time has just flown by. We’re back to regular life now–I’ve been back to work for three weeks and Gerald just started back at work this week (he works in a school). So far life together has been great. Already in this first month, there are a few things I’m discovering about myself in my new role as a wife:
- I’m enjoying cooking! I used to feel like Gerald and I would split the cooking more evenly at home, but for the most part, I’ve been doing nearly all the cooking. Not because Gerald’s not willing, but because I want to cook for him. I’ve been proud of myself for trying new recipes (so all those cookbooks people gave us are coming in handy!) instead of just making the same meals over & over again (which I used to do when I lived alone this past year). My bridesmaid and college roommate told me how much she enjoys cooking for her husband because it’s her way of demonstrating love to him and now I can see what she means. I feel the same way. We’ll see if it stays that way though once we start having kids. 😛
- Grace abounds. During our last premarital counseling session our pastor told me that he has seen how I’ve become more gracious (or willing to give grace) in these past few years of dating. I think I’ve seen how giving grace is more important in these first few weeks. I’ve been willing to just overlook clothes all over the floor, do the dishes myself, clean the bathroom counter or the hair in the drain, let the toilet seat stay up…among other things. I don’t know if I’m just being more gracious because we’re newlyweds and I’m trying to avoid conflict, but we’ve had our share of conflict in the dating years and I think it may be more that I’m just realizing that some things are not that big a deal and it’s okay. I can be willing to do things to help Gerald out. He does things that I don’t want to do like take out the trash, kill all the bugs, etc. He even did some cleaning for us last week before people came over since I was working and he was home. I know I’m also more aware of the way I ask Gerald to do things like pick up his clothes, for example. I’m trying to be more aware of my tone and the way I ask things so they don’t come across as critical and demanding (a problem that used to lead to many more arguments). Marriage is a teaching tool from God about His love for us and how we can demonstrate that to others!
- I love doing life together. No more phone conversations at night when we were both tired from days at work. All we have to do is come home and we get to just “be” together. We have our daily conversations, but I also just appreciate always having Gerald there even if we’re not doing anything together at the moment. It’s just a comfort knowing that he’s around. He’s my partner, my best friend, and my husband. It’s wonderful knowing you have someone who is there to support you and be with you through all of life. 🙂
We had dinner every night at one of the themed restaurants on the resort.
Our first excursion was the Bavarro Runners, which we would HIGHLY recommend if you go to Punta Cana. You basically go on a tour of the countryside to see more of the DR and get to experience lots of Dominican history and life. Plus the traditional Dominican food they gave us for lunch was SO GOOD.
The other excursion we went on was the Marinarium. It was a snorkeling trip where we got to swim around the reef for a while and see lots of fish. Then we went into this special aquarium in the middle of the ocean to swim with sharks and sting rays. I would’ve liked it more if it wasn’t so cloudy on this day. After snorkeling they take you to a shallower part of the ocean to swim and they sort of have a swim up bar, but the water was FREEZING!! I did like eating fresh coconut on the boat though!
Here you can kind of tell how sunburned we were. You can’t tell that it hurt every time I moved when my clothes rubbed against the burn. Next time, I’m going to spend a little more time in the shade!!
This past Saturday, Gerald and I held a second wedding reception at our church for a lot of the youth group members and members of our young adult fellowship that we couldn’t invite to our wedding. A lot of people who came to our wedding came to this reception too, but that’s alright. This is one event I DID NOT plan for (shocker, I know). We just kind of threw it together the week of. I even made a little photo slideshow from the wedding 15 minutes before the reception began (thank you, iMovie)! Either way though, it still turned out great. Special thanks to our parents for helping out too.
This is going to be a quick entry, because I’m getting married TOMORROW!! I still can’t really believe that the wedding’s tomorrow. It doesn’t feel like it to me. Gerald and I were talking and we think it’s because we’re still in the planning/preparing mode. So especially for someone like me who loves to plan, it’s almost like just getting ready for another event. After tonight though when everything’s done and I have nothing left to plan or prepare, I think it will hit me more. I’m really excited about everything and just to see how it will all come together though!
I won’t post any pictures yet of the decorations and other shots from prep week, but my cousin Justine is amazing at decorating and all the place cards Melissa designed look great on the screen we have at the reception. 🙂 You’ll just have to wait to either see it in person or for the pictures.
This morning started out with a great run (my last one as Christy Wong–I realized now in races I’m going to have to put my new name!). Now I have to start cooking for the bridesmaid brunch I’m hosting at my condo and then we get to go get pampered by getting mani/pedis before the rehearsal tonight.
Still, even with all the time and money that goes into this one day, I know that it’s only the beginning. Marriage is more than just the wedding day and Gerald and I are looking forward to sharing this life together.
If you have any marriage advice, feel free to share! 🙂